A Myth: If I just stay busy.....I won't hurt as bad.

If I just stay busy, I won't hurt as bad is only a myth. The fact: you have to go through to get through and that is the only way to work through grief. Everyone knows that you put your mask on daily to survive in the outside world, but at times....you must take it off and CRY!

Tears are important and we have to get them out. . . But what I find even more interesting is why we have tears to begin with. Tears cleanse the soul and if we didn't release them after losing something/someone important then that could only mean one thing: The event didn't matter or affect our lives; did not touch our soul.

Tears are a good thing and prove that what you lost was important and had purpose.

Keep crying until you are ready for the next step.

Jett Travolta

My heart is saddened for the Travolta family. The loss of Jett touches many hearts but especially those of already bereaved parents. To the Travolta's, please know that regardless of fame, there are many others who have already walked down your heartbroken path and would be more than willing to help you. Please take baby steps.
From one Broken heart~~~~To Another
Angela Denes

How do I make it through the Holidays?

Ugh!! The holiday season just plain sucks for someone who is grieving. Halloween, Thanksgiving and now...CHRISTMAS! How does anyone make it through without losing their mind? Here is what the experts say:

1. Don't worry about traditions...do whatever you can to just get through even if that means not setting up the tree, making your holiday rounds or doing anything that will bring you down even more than where you already are.

2. Do something new and different. Maybe travel or spend Christmas some place other than where all of the memories are.

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Delusional-- -- I think NOT!

Name: Cheryl M
Enoree, SC

I just read your story The Streetlight and let me tell You...I had someone very dear to me pass on. I have had what I thought to be signs but this takes the cake. I have been wanting a sign that I knew I couldn't brush off as coincidence. As I was reading your story about the lights, my 6 year old daughter came into the room and was frightened because the light in the living room went out!Did you hear that? THE LIGHT WENT OUT! As I'm writing I'm still waiting for it come back on. People can call me nuts if they want but nothing could have wiped the smile off my face when that happened.I know that it was my dear friend that I have been missing so painfully.

Am I grieving the right way?

There is no right or wrong way to grieve the loss of a loved one. The fact that you are eating, brushing your teeth and not in a dark room playing with lent balls tells me that you are doing it "JUST RIGHT." Hang in there. I know this is tough but remember to just keep taking those baby steps.